Tovah talks about toddlers and tantrums on BabyChatTV
What’s Going on Inside the Toddler Brain
From The Leonard Lopate Show
Why are toddlers so prone to tantrums? Tovah say, “They have a lot of new emotions – so anger, frustration, disappointment, fear really come into play as they start to separate. But they don’t – literally – have the brain mechanisms to control those. So they get upset, they get upset in the moment.”
>>Listen to the show and hear more great advice from Tovah
Bad Habits to Watch for in Toddlers
If your toddler is hitting his siblings, overeating or constantly throwing tantrums, he could be exhibiting early symptoms of behavioral problems—or he could be completely normal. Distinguishing between regular childhood misbehavior and acts that could be cause for greater concern is best left to the experts, but parents can help by avoiding any alarmism and keeping a close eye on their children for any unusual or excessive acting out, says Tovah Klein, director of the Barnard College Center for Toddler Development.
>>See the whole slideshow
Why Time-Outs Are Hurting Your Kid
From The Stir at cafemom.com
Got a “time-out” chair in your home? You might want to put it back in the playroom. While time-outs were the discipline method du jour for parents in the ’90s, they’ve fallen out of favor with today’s more progressive child behavior experts. “Time-outs were originally a way for kids to take a break, think about what they did, maybe even have remorse for it, and settle down and return,” says Tovah P. Klein, Ph.D.
>>Read the two main reasons to avoid time-outs
3 Tips for Your Toddler Parenting Toolbook
Advice from Tovah P. Klein
>>Watch the video
Is your toddler driving you nuts? If so, that’s totally okay! You are among friends here. All of us have had toddlers who made us bonkers. Tovah tackles the most common issues and gives you real-life research and advice you can put to use. First of all, parents need to understand how those barely-walking baby minds think. The skill they most need to learn at age 2 is not how to share a toy or pee on the potty, but self-regulation. That alone is the key to their future success, Dr. Klein says.
My 2-year-old turned into a 35-pound leech. Every waking moment he demanded that I hold him in my arms—standing, never sitting, as if my love weren’t real unless my biceps were burning. When I would run downstairs to get him a glass of milk or grab my iPhone, he would insist on being ferried along on my hip. Awesomely, my husband wasn’t allowed to help. I was apparently the only person on earth who could read to my son, sing to him, change his diaper, give him a bath, make his dinner, hand him his water, and strap him into his car seat. I’m not going to tell you what it’s been like dropping him off at school, because I’m trying to block out the memories.
From parents.com by Marguerite Lamb
Your 20-month-old whacks another child on the head with a plastic shovel and grabs the pail out of his hands. Or your 2-year-old watches as you deposit two scoopfuls of ice cream into his small plastic bowl, then two equal-size scoops into a larger bowl for his sister. He wails, “I didn’t get as much!” What do you do and why did this happen?